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Say "I Love You" to Your Spouse Today

Updated on May 25, 2023
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Denise speaks from her own experience. She has had many trials and difficulties in her own life and seeks to help others through theirs.

Family life can be beautiful, but sometimes it puts things between us that just are hard to get around.
Family life can be beautiful, but sometimes it puts things between us that just are hard to get around. | Source

Marriage Takes Work

Marriage has its ups and downs. Sometimes the ups are more than the downs. Sometimes it is the other way around. Most married couples go through phases where they grow apart, and if they don't come back together, they are in trouble. At first, there will be reasons, then excuses, then the decision to not come back any more is made.

Many couples must be apart for long periods of time out of financial or economic necessity. Schooling in a distant city, jobs requiring travel, and temporarily relocating for assignments can keep a spouse away from the daily difficulties of family life. Unless the couple makes a concerted effort to spend time connecting through letters, e-mails, phone calls, or other means, it is difficult to get back together.

Even when two people have lived together for many years, and are committed to the marriage, nurturing of the love relationship helps the marriage stand the test of time. Keeping love alive when you are at home together takes effort. It doesn't mean just going out and buying a gift. It means coming up with creative ways to share love that didn't require spending money.

When we do things together as a couple, the difficulties of life can be put behind us. We are strengthened as a unit and more able to deal with life without becoming discouraged.
When we do things together as a couple, the difficulties of life can be put behind us. We are strengthened as a unit and more able to deal with life without becoming discouraged. | Source

Say "I Love You" With Time

The most important way to say "I love you" to your spouse is with time, one-on-one time. It means placing high priority on doing things together as a couple: working together, playing together, praying together, and going places together.

If necessary, find someone to watch the children. You may find yourselves coming home, sitting in the driveway and saying, "It is okay. The house is still standing. No one is bleeding. We are okay."

If your spouse is an avid movie fan, even if you think that TV is a waste of time, sit down and watch an episode or a movie, relax and enjoy it. Cuddle, hold hands, and enjoy being close to each other.

If you both play musical instruments, get out the duet book and play something together. The results will uplift you both. Learn to laugh at the mistakes and cry when the music touches you. Appreciate each other's talents and abilities.

As you look back on the memories of your life, it is the time you spend together that is the most meaningful. Whether remodeling your home and apartment buildings together, attending performances, serving in volunteer positions, watching your children's school activities, gardening, canning, playing baseball, going swimming, taking walks, making popcorn, washing dishes, camping in a tent, cooking breakfast, trimming trees, and taking trips to see your children; each time you plan, prepare, and participate together, your love is strengthened.

With us each going our separate ways in our family responsibilities, leaving love notes connects us for just a moment. Sometimes, that is sufficient to keep the love fires burning brightly.
With us each going our separate ways in our family responsibilities, leaving love notes connects us for just a moment. Sometimes, that is sufficient to keep the love fires burning brightly. | Source

Thank you doesn't say enough

For all you've done for me.

If it weren't for you,

I wouldn't know

How nice it is to be me!

Say "I Love You" With Words

According to Jim Rohn, motivational speaker, words feed the soul. The soul is the spirit and body together, the whole individual, and the heart is the connecting point. Love is both physical and spiritual, and words give it life. Saying "I love you" frequently helps people to feel needed and wanted. Written words are also helpful, thus the importance of gifts, cards, and love notes.

Love notes do not have to be long and flowery. Shakespeare was not the best at expressing love, in fact, the majority of his writings are very tragic. Love was so passionate that people were killing each other and themselves in the process! We don't have to go that far! Instead, think of a love note as a gentle reminder that someone cares, not just anyone, a special someone.

Love notes can be written on just about anything: a scrap of paper torn into the shape of a heart, a picture of a couple from a magazine, leftover scraps of cloth, messages or images cut from greeting cards, a piece of tape, or the most practical invention yet, the sticky note!

The best love notes are least expected, but have significant impact. They are found hidden in a clothing drawer, tucked into a lunch pail, or fall out of the toolbox when it is opened. They say things that perhaps cannot be said face to face, but sound wonderful coming from the depths of the heart. They bring back memories of tenderness and fill the soul with warmth and love. It only takes a moment, and you might be surprised what happens.

Inexpensive gifts and cards can be found at second hand stores and garage sales. They are usually well stocked with inspirational verses, cups, plaques, and cards. Make your own "cookie-card" from a sugar-cookie recipe and decorate with a personal message. Pick some flowers and put them in a special cup, or simply write a personal letter. These are the most cherished gifts, and will be remembered much longer than the trips to exotic places and expensive articles of jewelry or clothing.

Taking the time to express love by giving affection is an investment in the future health of the marriage relationship. Now is the time to start.
Taking the time to express love by giving affection is an investment in the future health of the marriage relationship. Now is the time to start. | Source

Say "I Love You" With Affection

Affection is oftentimes lost in the day-to-day routine of family life. There is always so much to do and so little time! When children are young, it is the bathing, dressing, diapering, and feeding. As they get older it is the constant "Mommy, Mommy, Mommy!" Once they start school, it is the cooking, cleaning, and preparing, along with the taxi driving and cheer leading. It never seems to end!

Once the day is done, parents are exhausted and physical intimacy is put on hold for a more "convenient" time. Before long, both parties are hungry for physical closeness and begin looking elsewhere to find it. Affection offers a way to intersperse physical closeness throughout the day and keeps the fires of love alive. If you find that affection is a thing of the past in your marriage, start by simply adding a kiss to you and your spouse's daily routine:

  • The good morning kiss - either right after the alarm rings, or as you are rolling out of bed.
  • The good-bye kiss - meet at the door before leaving for work (hint: it is easier to kiss when you are outside of the car).
  • The welcome home kiss - whoever walks in the door last finds the other person and gives them a kiss of greeting.

Then add a hug. Whenever you kiss, give each other a hug as well. If you walk up behind your spouse while they are busy working, kiss them on the back of the neck. Have this be a pre-arranged signal meaning that the person being kissed needs to turn around and give the other person a hug. Hugs are the cheapest way to keep love alive. Be very generous with them and remember that they work best when accompanied by a kiss.

Try a little shoulder rub. When your spouse is seated at the computer, or watching TV, either come up behind them or sit next to them. Put your hands on their shoulders with your thumbs pointing toward each other at the base of the neck. Start rubbing with the thumbs in a circular motion, moving outward towards the shoulders. Squeeze slightly with the fingers on the front of the shoulder as you do so. The shoulders are often tense from a long day at work, and may be tight. As you rub, they should relax and the person will sigh. Follow the shoulder rub with a hug and a kiss.

Affection is an inexpensive, simple way to add love to your life on a daily basis. Couples who express affection regularly have much more emotionally healthy children. Children feel stability in the home when they see love expressed between their parents. Affection expressed as couples get older keeps them feeling young and brings back the romance that may have been lost with the activities of rearing a family.

Sharing and giving love are what marriage is all about. It is what brings couples together, and is required for keeping them together. Life is long and lonely when couples allow their love to be forfeited due to petty disagreements and disappointments. Remember, there is no time like the present to rekindle your love.

Do you feel that your spouse expresses their love to you enough?

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This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.

© 2012 Denise W Anderson

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